Understanding the process of communication is important because commun
ication is critical to all forms of psychotherapy. A proper understand
ing of communication is particularly important in marital therapy beca
use communication is often a treatment target. A central question of t
his paper is whether or not communication training (CT) programs in ma
rital therapy have been sufficiently sensitive to the complexities of
gender in communication. A critical review of research on the role of
gender in communication is presented. Existing data indicate that indi
viduals tend to hold stereotypes of gender differences in language, bu
t many of these purported differences have not been supported in empir
ical investigations. However, gender has been found to be linked to va
riables such as amount of conversation elicited, length of utterance,
use of qualifying phrases, swearing, use of back channel cues, breakin
g of silences, function of tag questions, and compliment style. Numero
us limitations of the empirical literature exploring gender difference
s in communication behavior are described. This paper advocates the de
velopment of models of communication in which gender is recognized as
having significant implications.