It is argued that current attempts to investigate the process of famil
y therapy might benefit from the application of discursive and narrati
ve analytic techniques. An example of such an analysis is given, takin
g the work of an experienced family therapist with one family seeking
help in dealing with the aftermath of a marital separation. The theme
of 'how to deal with change as it materializes in the discussions duri
ng therapy is selected for detailed examination in this paper. It is a
rgued that there are two main discourses on this theme evident in the
family's discussions, one being that the separation has occurred and i
ts consequences should now he left to arise naturally; the other being
that the effects of the separation need to be actively managed. It is
suggested that this analytic procedure can dramatize the subtle chang
es in family discourses during therapy; its limitations in terms of ge
neralizability, and the difficulties of dealing with huge amounts of c
omplex material, are also noted.