The Confucian norm of filial piety is generally assumed as an underlyi
ng ideology of the traditional living arrangement of the Japanese elde
rly, ie., patri-lineal, patri-local stem family. In this article, the
author describes the changes in filial piety and co-residence, and obs
erves social relationships of the contemporary Japanese elderly. A sur
vey with 882 elderly community residents as subjects clearly showed di
fferential roles of others played in the social world of the elderly,
especially significant differences between daughters and daughters-in-
law. Elderly parents feel emotionally close to their daughters, whethe
r they live together or apart, while they seldom feel emotionally clos
e to co-resident daughters-in-law who actually provide instrumental su
pport. Although living with a married son is still a preferred arrange
ment, it is likely to bring harmful interactions with co-resident daug
hters-in-law. Therefore avoiding co-residence might be a meaningful ch
oice for the elderly, without immediate need of instrumental support.
In Japan, intergenerational relationships between elderly parents and
their adult children become move affection-based, convenience-oriented
and free from the norm of filial piety than they used to be.