In this article, I develop an individuality-based conception of the ri
ght to privacy that can be used to protect the freedoms of sexual choi
ce and intimate association. In doing so, I draw on John Stuart Mill's
concept of individuality and his celebration of lifestyle experimenta
tion. This formulation of the right to privacy is defended against a c
ritic,led Rubenfeld, who uses Michel Foucault's critique of the repres
sive hypothesis to argue that an individuality-based conception of the
right to privacy will inevitably impose standardized sexual identitie
s on individuals. In response to Rubenfeld, I argue that the position
that sexuality is central to self-definition does not depend on the as
sumption that speaking the truth about sex will set us free. The aim o
f the individuality-based conception of the right to privacy that I am
advocating is not to fix identities, but to open up greater room for
lifestyle experimentation.