The purpose of this study was to examine age differences in the use an
d effectiveness of social support processes emitted during conversatio
ns about real life negative events between preadolescent, adolescent,
and adult friends. Age differences were found for 3 forms of support.
Older supporters made more excuses and engaged in less distraction tha
n preadolescent supporters, and adult supporters validated more excuse
s than younger supporters. Talking to friends alleviated negative affe
ct in subjects of all ages, however factors predicting reductions in n
egative affect differed across age. Preadolescents felt better when fr
iends distracted them from their problems, and adults felt better when
friends helped them evade responsibility for their problems. Specific
support processes did not predict affect changes for adolescents, but
adolescent girls felt better after the conversation than adolescent b
oys. Results are explained in terms of age differences in self-validat
ion and intimacy needs, experience co-constructing reality and providi
ng social support, and refinement of social skills.