MY RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN - AND NOT AS BAD AS - YOURS IS - THE PERCEPTION OF SUPERIORITY IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS

This research studies naturally occurring thoughts about relationships to test hypotheses regarding the tendency to perceive one's own relat ionship as superior to others' relationships. Using a thought-listing technique, four experiments conducted in the United States and two exp eriments conducted in the Netherlands demonstrated that subjects hold more positive beliefs about their own relationships than other relatio nships (positive superiority) and hold fewer negative beliefs about th eir own relationships than other relationships (negative superiority). Also, subjects' beliefs about their own relationships are composed of far more positive than negative information (own relationship positiv ity), whereas perceptions of other relationships are dominated by nega tive information (other relationships negativity). These findings were obtained when subjects listed positive and negative thoughts regardin g global features of relationships; parallel findings emerged for desc riptions of constructive and destructive reactions to specific dissati sfying incidents.