Recent research supports the hypothesis that more active engagement of
the patient in occurring illnesses improves quality of life and proba
bly even life expectancy. In this study experience and theoretical kno
wledge from psychotherapy is transplanted to clinical practice in orde
r to improve the physician's engagement in the patient-disease relatio
nship. By defining severe and long-term illnesses as a psychotrauma, t
he transfer of the psychotherapeutical model leads to the creation of
a new triangular relationship: patient-illness-doctor. Practical examp
les are used as illustrations for the conceptual differences between p
sychotherapy and clinical medicine. Options for dialogue show the diff
erence between adaptation (''learning to live with'') and adjustment (
active coping strategies and controlling). The hypothesis is that a be
tter dialogue will reduce illness-related stress, giving the patient b
etter and more effective access to personal psychic and physical suppo
rt systems.