This article examines how Vietnamese citizens responded to state exhor
tations to devalue and simplify maritial exchanges. Such exhortations
reflected Engels' belief ([1884] 1972) that the success of revolutiona
ry socialism was contingent upon a transformation of marital instituti
ons. Vietnam, a ''weak'' state with an otherwise home-grown socialist
revolution, announced decrees to this end in the North after national
partition in 1954 and in the South following political reunification i
n 1975. This article employs data from the author's 1993 field survey
in a Northern and Southern province to track temporal changes in a var
iety of Vietnamese wedding practices. The results suggest that the soc
ialist marriage pattern took hold in the Northern province only. Findi
ngs are linked to historical events, modernization, state-society barg
aining processes, as well as the more general successes and failures o
f revolutionary socialism in Vietnam.