DIFFERENCES IN CONFLICT-RESOLUTION STYLES AMONG HETEROSEXUAL, GAY, AND LESBIAN COUPLES

We investigated whether different patterns of resolving relationship c onflict distinguished heterosexual, gay, and lesbian couples. One hund red eight couples (36 gay male, 36 lesbian, and 36 heterosexual) were drawn from the community, matched for age and length of relationship, and compared on the scales of the Styles of Conflict Inventory (SCI). To distinguish those conflict patterns that were orientation or gender specific, styles of conflict resolution between the men in same- and other-sex relationships and between the women in same- and other-sex c ouples were also compared. Results indicated that most couples across type of relationship reported a high degree of relationship satisfacti on and moderately low amounts of conflict. Overall, heterosexual, gay, and lesbian couples were fundamentally similar, and common stereotype s of each couple were not verified. Women in lesbian relationships rep orted significantly greater relationship satisfaction, greater hope fo r conflict resolution, and several more constructive conflict-resoluti on styles than either gay male couples or heterosexual couples. Differ ences appeared to be correlated with social gender role factors and co mmon differences in relationship lifestyle features, such as the prese nce of children in the home.