When returning to the site of prior research, ethnographers may find t
hemselves embroiled in emotional and ethical quandaries with the peopl
e about whom they have written. This article details the conversations
and emotional conflicts that erupted suddenly when I returned to a co
mmunity about which I had published a previous ethnographic account. W
riting the story gave me an opportunity to examine orthodox ethnograph
ic research practices, such as omitting the autobiographical self and
emotional responses from ethnographic texts. The return visit helped c
larify connections between my personal life and the way I conducted fi
eldwork in this community, and it led me to recommend that ethnographi
c practices include an examination of how our experiences connect us w
ith those we study rather than emphasize only how they set us apart.