A critical structural form organizing the social arrangement of childr
ens's lives is the clique. This primary group colors the character of
children's preadolescent years and shapes their socialization to adult
life. In this paper we draw on longitudinal participant observation a
nd on depth interviews with advanced elementary-school children to exp
lore the central feature of clique dynamics: the techniques of inclusi
on and exclusion. Cliques are circles of power wherein leaders attain
and wield influence over their followers by cyclically building them u
p and cutting them down, first drawing them into the elite inner circl
e and allowing them to bask in the glow of popularity and acceptance,
and then reducing them to positions of dependence and subjugation by t
urning the group against them. We conclude by discussing the generic f
eatures of these inclusionary and exclusionary dynamics, the character
istics of this cyclical pattern, the implications of this socializing
experience for the broader societal dynamics of power and manipulation
, and the kind of in-group/out-group differentiation that call lead to
prejudice and discrimination.