In this study, ethnographic interviews were used to identify first-tim
e fathers' experiences of the birth of their first child. Fourteen fat
hers were interviewed, and prenatal expectations of the experience are
compared with the fathers' perceptions after the birth. Although the
fathers expected to be treated as part of a laboring couple, they foun
d that they were relegated to a supporting role. initially the fathers
were confident of their ability to support their wives, but they foun
d that labor was more work than they had anticipated. They became fear
ful of the outcome, but hid these fears from their partners. Later, th
ey found that their focus moved from their wives to their babies at th
e time of birth. The men all completed the experience with an enhanced
respect for their wives. Fathers should be included in labor manageme
nt plans and need support for their role as coach, particularly when t
heir wives experience pain. They also need to be encouraged to eat and
take a break from their wives' labor when appropriate. (C) 1997 by th
e American College of Nurse-Midwives.