I use a large national probability sample to test the hypothesis of ur
ban-rural differences in helping between friends and family members. A
very weak trend is apparent whereby urbanites receive more help from
friends than do rural dwellers, give more help to friends, expect more
help from friends, and expect less help from relatives. These differe
nces exist mainly because of the demographic compositions of urban and
rural areas and because urban dwellers live farther from relatives th
an do I ural dwellers. A different pattern appears among the elderly;
in this group, urbanism is associated with receiving less assistance f
rom others in general. The association between giving and receiving as
sistance is stronger in urban than in rural areas. I interpret these r
esults in the light of social disorganization, overload, and subcultur
e theory.