Interviews in twenty-one farm families following a fatal accident iden
tified factors involved in bereaved family members becoming more dista
nt from one another. This article explores five of the distancing fact
ors: 1) How blaming and fear of blame can produce distancing; 2) How t
he economic crisis that exists for a farm family when the farm operato
r is killed produces family distance, particularly intergenerationally
; 3) The distancing effects of family differences over the expression
of feelings; 4) The distancing effects of the preoccupation and emotio
nal flatness of bereavement; and 5) The role of kinship beliefs and at
titudes in producing distance among bereaved in-laws.