Many of the mysteries of the incest experience revolve around the perp
lexing nature of the attachment between victim and perpetrator. One pu
rpose of this article is to further professional understanding of the
internal psychological experience of the incest survivor. Another purp
ose is to elucidate the meaning of the incest survivors' attachment an
d/or passivity with the perpetrator in an effort to liberate victims f
rom society's ''blame the victim'' attitude. It needs to be understood
that much of the incest victims behavior is a desperate effort to rem
ain attached to her caretakers. The psychoanalytic developmental persp
ective used here draws from the British Object Relations school, speci
fically, the work of Winnicott, Fairbairn, Guntrip, and Ogden. The pos
ition advanced here is that there is a common core to the trauma of in
cest for all victims.