What does the stoic, silent expression of the terminal cancer patient
signify? Clinical observation suggests that this emotional silence is
often a physical energy-saving device, essential for survival to the v
ery last breath. Caregivers and survivors may also experience a variet
y of contradictory and inexpressible emotions in silence. The role of
the psychologist on the palliative care unit is to be there for the te
rminally-ill, as well as for the family/friends, both during the dying
and bereavement, and for the caregiver team. This article focuses on
the work of decoding ordinary words which for a good number of patient
s hide a painful past. It also stresses the necessity to remain open t
o the unexpected and to allow and trust the other to live what happens
since there is a constant and unconscious effort to fill the void.