How to tell patients they have cancer is an important question in cancer ca
re. The question provokes distress in physicians, and a failure in relating
the diagnosis may arrest patients' process of coping with anxiety and redu
ce their subjective well-being. This contribution to a theory of communicat
ing about the diagnosis is empirically based on an earlier study in which p
atients with malignant brain tumors were interviewed and is theoretically b
ased on contemporary object-relational psychoanalysis. The authors propose
that a beneficial physician-patient encounter can be viewed as characterize
d by the acknowledgement of the physician as an unconscious protection agai
nst death and as a facilitating environment for the patient's reconstructiv
e process. The implications of these propositions are discussed. The author
s also propose that the transference from the child-parent relationship to
the patient-physician relationship enables physicians to use introspection
as a means to improve their skillfulness regarding "How to tell." Thus, int
rospection may provide physicians with guiding knowledge grounded in themse
lves.