This study compares best same-sex friendship and friendship within marriage
for men and women and investigates links between relationship quality and
self-esteem. Partners in 219 couples completed measures of friendship quali
ty, marital adjustment and self-esteem. Results indicate that men and women
see their spousal friendships more similarly than their best friendships.
Men make greater distinctions between spouses and friends than do women. Th
ese findings suggest that women perceive similar provisions from their spou
ses and friends, whereas men may not, Marital adjustment and friendship qua
lity are significantly related to self-esteem for both sexes. Although wome
n appear more sensitive to disagreements in their marriages, the detrimenta
l effect of conflict on self-esteem was similar for men and women.