We investigated whether people can determine which partners are best able t
o confirm their self-views Results suggest that people are able to determin
e the valence of a potential romantic partner's model of other (i.e., they
are meta-accurate). Previous research indicates that people expect to have
their specific negative and positive self-views confirmed by partners whose
model of other matches the valence of their self-view. In the present stud
y, participants generally sought feedback that was congruent with a partner
's model of other. However, men who held positive self-views were not meta-
accurate; rather, they sought positive or negative feedback from partners r
egardless of the valence of the partner's model of other. These gender diff
erences are discussed in terms of differential socialization patterns. Resu
lts suggest that people may choose relationship partners who are able to co
nfirm their self-views.