This article presents the concept of reflective solidarity as an ideal
of feminist coalition. Reflective solidarity is defined as the mutual
expectation of a responsible orientation to relationship. Situating i
tself among other feminist efforts to theorize connections after ident
ity politics, the article builds from a critical appraisal of recent w
ork by Shane Phelan (1994), Lee Quinby (1994), and Donna Haraway (1991
). It argues that these works contribute significantly to feminist the
ory when they are understood in the context of communication and dialo
gue. The remainder of the paper develops this context through an analy
sis of the communicative underpinnings of the word ''we'' and through
the development of the concept of the perspective of situated, hypothe
tical thirds.