In this article I explore the ways in which sixth, seventh, and eighth
grade White girls from poor and working-class families in rural Maine
understand, express, and react to dominant cultural definitions of fe
mininity. Using a qualitative method, The Listening Guide, to interpre
t data gathered over the course of a year from weekly videotaped focus
group conversations and individual interviews, I identify and undersc
ore the contradictory nature of what constitutes appropriately feminin
e discourse and behavior for these girls-discourse and behavior that i
s radically different from the dominant White middle-class cultural id
eal and that offers these girls a wide range of physical and verbal ex
pression not usually considered under the rubric of conventional femin
inity. I then examine the girls' ambivalent relationship with middle-c
lass propriety! as well as their anger their longing, and, in some cas
es, their resistance to dominant cultural ideologies of femininity. Al
though such resistance may serve them well in their local community it
puts them at odds with the expectations of their teachers and other a
dults invested in the conventional feminine ideal and thus underscores
their displacement in school and society. The Listener's Guide, I con
tend, provides a way to elucidate the struggles these working-class gi
rls experience as they negotiate and contest contradictory voices and
visions of appropriately feminine behavior and constructions of self v
ying for their attention and allegiance.