Seed set in the perennial larkspur Delphinium nelsonii is greater in c
rosses between plants growing an intermediate distance apart than in s
horter and longer crosses. Since crossing distance is an attribute of
a specific combination of parents, its effect on seed set represents a
n interaction of these parents, and since genetic similarity declines
with physical distance in D. nelsonii populations, the interaction ref
lects parental genetic similarity. Understanding processes responsible
for the effect is simplified if seed set differences result from prez
ygotic events, because in this case no inbreeding or outbreeding depre
ssion are involved. In 1990 we observed pollen tubes after performing
crosses between plants separated by 1 m, 10 m, or 100 m, and found tha
t the intermediate, 10 m crosses delivered the most tubes to the ovary
. A combined analysis of the 1990 experiment and three earlier experim
ents showed that this prezygotic difference in performance is signific
ant and of the same magnitude as seed set differences. Disproportionat
e failure of pollen tubes in 1 and 100 m crosses seems likely to refle
ct a trait of the maternal parent rather than of pollen, because the k
inship of haploid pollen to a zygote it has fertilized always exceeds
maternal kinship to that zygote. Thus the conditions for ''pollen suic
ide'' to evolve by natural selection are more restrictive than those f
or ''female choice'' to evolve, and the latter is more likely to contr
ol the outcome of the parental interaction.