Secrecy has long been recognized as an important, and at times problematic,
aspect of social life. White much has been written about the functions tha
t secrets play in society, how individuals learn to use secrets remains rel
atively unexplored. Girls' accounts of their enculturation into secrecy rev
eal how they treated secrets as social objects and often depersonalized sec
rets when using them as social currency. Also, the absence of a well-develo
ped concept of privacy contributed to the instrumental use of secrets. More
over, using secrets to shape friendship and enhance social position was par
t of the larger process whereby secrecy became a vehicle for developing sub
jective reason and an exchange perspective among these girls. Thus, encultu
ration into secrecy involved much more than learning whom to tall which sec
rets under what circumstance. Girls were also learning fundamental, but lar
gely tacit, aspects of mainstream American culture as they learned to use a
nd interpret the meaning of secrets.