Ak. Hagemeister et Pc. Rosenblatt, GRIEF AND THE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP OF COUPLES WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED A CHILDS DEATH, Death studies, 21(3), 1997, pp. 231-252
In an interview study of the sexual relationship of bereaved parents,
16 of 24 heterosexual couples interviewed after the death of a child r
eported a break or decline in sexual intercourse. Consistent with soci
al constructivist perspectives, the meanings couples gave to sexual in
tercourse, the death, and their grief were central in their understand
ing of the break or deline-e.g., the belief that intercourse was too p
ainful because it was how the child had been made. Meanings were also
linked to the continuation or resumption of the intercourse-e.g., that
intercourse was life-affirming. Touching, which was defined as sexual
by many people interviewed, had consistent meanings across couples-co
nnection, support, and comfort-although couples differed in whether to
uching increased, decreased, or did not increase enough to safisfy one
partner following the death. The meanings that couples wed in discuss
ing touching and the decline or break in sexual intercourse were also
wed in talking about extramarital affairs and grieving during intercou
rse.