In this paper a derailed clinical example of a couple therapy highlights ho
w the integration of object relational and intersubjective theory is benefi
cial for the growth of the couple system,stern. Theory based on Benjamin's
(1992) formulation of "where objects were, subjects must be " (p. 44)frame
the intersubjective treatment techniques reported here. In addition, a case
example demonstrates how a couple began to manage the difficult challenge
of maintaining autonomy (individuality) while being emotionally connected i
n the relationship The paper demonstrates how projective identification pat
terns in the couple system give way to mutuality for the individuals ilz th
e partnership.