This qualitative study aimed to describe, from the perspective of domestic
violence survivors, what helped victims in health care encounters improve t
heir situation and thus their health, and how disclosure to and identificat
ion by health care providers were related to these helpful experiences. Sem
i-structured, open-ended interviews were conducted with a purposeful sample
of survivors in the San Francisco Bay Area. Data were analyzed using const
ant comparative techniques and interpretative processes. Twenty-five women
were interviewed, the majority being white and middle-class, with some coll
ege education. Two overlapping phenomena related to helpful experiences eme
rged: (1) the complicated dance of disclosure by victims and identification
by health care providers, and (2) the power of receiving validation (ackno
wledgment of abuse and confirmation of patient worth) from a health care pr
ovider. The women described a range of disclosure and identification behavi
ors from direct to indirect or tacit. They also described how-with or witho
ut direct identification or disclosure-validation provided "relief," "comfo
rt," "planted a seed," and "started the wheels turning" toward changing the
way they perceived their situations, and moving them toward safety. Our da
ta suggest that if health care providers suspect domestic violence, they sh
ould not depend on direct disclosure, but rather assume that the patient is
being battered, acknowledge that battering is wrong, and confirm the patie
nt's worth. Participants described how successful validation may take on ta
cit forms that do not jeopardize patient safety. After validating the patie
nt's situation and worth, we suggest health care providers document the abu
se and plan with the patient for safety, while offering ongoing validation,
support, and referrals.