This qualitative study of women with non-insulin dependent diabetes mellitu
s (NIDDM) examined constructions of their diabetes management and socio-fam
ilial relationships as potential sources of support. Semi-structured interv
iew data was collected from 16 women. The transcripts were analysed with th
e aim of examining the ways in which Sender relations structured women's ac
counts of health-related behaviours. Women talked about themselves as wives
, mothers, being pregnant and parenting, and friends of other women in ways
that demonstrated how caring for others impeded their capacity to care for
themselves. Meeting the food preferences of husbands and dietary requireme
nts of diabetic husbands were dominant themes in women's accounts of marria
ge, and in various ways women justified their husbands' lack of support. Fu
rthermore, the care of others during pregnancy and parenting was also an ob
stacle to women caring for themselves. An awareness of the gender politics
inherent within social and family contexts is crucial to improving the effe
ctiveness of medical advice for diabetes management.