This article examines the relational dynamics and patterns of conflict exhi
bited in the two interdependent parties in America's nursing homes. In the
framework of the social exchange theory of structural power, it explains ho
w the asymmetrical structure of dependence and control in nursing homes eli
minates the possibility of fair bargaining-normal conflict-between staff an
d patients. In the absence of any opportunity for reciprocal rewards and pu
nishment, patients tend to adopt submissive influence strategies, whereas s
taff members tend to neglect, exploit, or abuse difficult or resistant pati
ents. The author examines the exchange dynamics of adversarial tactics and
the prevalence of third-parry conflict in the nursing home, and shows that
a partisan, patient-directed ally could rebalance power and eliminate inequ
ities in the nursing home environment.