The present study investigated the prevalence of gender-stereotyped message
s in family stories told to preschool age children. Based on previous resea
rch and theory it was expected that mothers would frame their stories with
sadness and fathers would frame their stories with themes of anger. It was
further expected that sons and daughters would be presented with stories th
at differed in emotional themes. One hundred and twenty families with presc
hool age children participated in the study. Mothers and fathers were asked
to tell their child a story about when they were disappointed as a child.
Two hundred and four stories were coded for themes of sadness, anger, mixed
sadness and anger, and no emotional frame. Contrary to predictions, there
were relatively few stories told with an anger frame. Mothers overall tende
d to tell disappointment stories with a frame of sadness. Fathers overall w
ere more likely to use no emotional frame in their stories. Mothers were mo
re likely to tell stories with sadness frames to their daughters than to so
ns. Two examples are provided that illustrate an instrumental focus of fath
ers' stories and the emotional content of mothers' stories. The process of
creating meaningful stories may be an important avenue that parents use to
impart gender-related values to their children.