This article describes and analyzes the stream of thought occurring concurr
ently with overt communication about marital conflict. The research conside
rs how marital conflicts may be affected by selective attention to differen
t elements of conflict (different emotions, issues, interactional behaviors
, and background events) and by spontaneous attributions about communicativ
e intentions and outcomes. One hundred eighteen couples discussed a current
conflict issue, then individually watched a videotape of the discussion an
d reported thoughts and feelings experienced during the discussion. Descrip
tively, the thoughts revealed limited complexity, infrequent perspective ta
king, a predominant concern for implicit relationship issues over content i
ssues, and frequent direct analysis of the communication process. Spouses v
iewed their own communication in more favorable terms than their partner's
communication. Husbands and wives also viewed the interactions differently,
with wives appearing, in certain respects, more other-directed, relationsh
ip-sensitive, and objective. Interaction-based thoughts were especially sub
jective in the most severe conflicts, as suggested by a lack of corresponde
nce between attributions about communication and observer coding of the int
eractions. Furthermore, in severe conflicts and dissatisfied relationships,
the individuals had more angry, blaming, and pessimistic thoughts and less
focus on content issues.