A sense of connectedness for men was hypothesized to be based on relationsh
ips that emphasize forms of social comparison, whereas a sense of connected
ness for women was hypothesized to be based on relationships that emphasize
forms of intimacy and physical proximity. The results from this study gene
rally supported the hypotheses for both women and men. For women, relations
hips that emphasized reliable alliance and not guidance contributed to soci
al connectedness. For men, relationships that emphasized reassurance of wor
th but not reliable alliance or opportunity for nurturance contributed to s
ocial connectedness. Differences in how women and men construct social conn
ectedness are discussed in terms of counseling implications and future rese
arch.