In an age dominated by consumerism and government agencies, many people bel
ieve that self-interest is the dominant motive in society. Gifts are seen a
s, at best, irrelevant frills. The anthropologist Marcel Mauss, in his famo
us exploration of the gift in 'primitive and archaic societies, showed that
the essential aspect of the exchange of presents involved the establishmen
t of a social tie that bound the parties together above and beyond any mate
rial value of the objects exchanged. But still today, nothing can be initia
ted of undertaken, can thrive or function, it it is not nourished by the gi
ft. This, to begin at the beginning, is true of life itself, which,at least
for the moment, is neither bought nor obtained by force but is purely and
simply given, for the most part in the context of a family, whether traditi
onal or unconventional.