In popular and political debate there is currently a theme which domin
ates discussion about the family and this is the theme of decline and
destabilisation caused by the rise of individualism and lack of moral
fibre. There is a wishful thinking intrinsic to these debates in which
it is hoped that the family can be returned to an idealised state, un
affected by other social changes, Recent sociological work on the fami
ly interprets changes to family life rather differently and therefore
offers an important counterdiscourse, Although there are certain limit
ations to the new theoretical work on the family provided by Giddens a
nd Beck, it is argued here that their work provides a broad understand
ing of change which is not reducible to individual motivations and mor
al decline, These perspectives are particularly important at a time wh
en family law is engineering policies to change the very nature of pos
t-divorce family life, Because these changes are based on a narrow und
erstanding of change, it is suggested that they amount to harmful tink
erings which misconstrue the wider context within which families are b
eing transformed.