The ethical issues around decision making on behalf of infants have been il
luminated by two empirical research studies carried out in Scotland. In-dep
th interviews with 176 medical and nursing staff and with 108 parents of ba
bies for whom there was discussion of treatment withholding/withdrawal, gen
erated a wealth of data on both the decision making process and the managem
ent of cases. Both staff and parents believe that parents should be involve
d in treatment limitation decisions on behalf of their babies. However, whi
lst many doctors and nurses consider the ultimate responsibility too great
for families to carry the majority of parents wish to be the final arbiters
. We offer explanations for the differences in perception found in the two
groups. The results of these empirical studies provide both aids to ethical
reflection and guidance for clinicians dealing with these vulnerable famil
ies. They demonstrate the value of empirical data in the philosophical deba
te.