The Internet offers opportunities for instant communication with individual
s all over the world, including those with whom one is already acquainted o
r new acquaintances. The Internet is seen as particularly dangerous for wom
en, who are often to be subjected to sexual harassment and "flaming" when t
hey participate in online discussions. However, women who participate in wo
men-only mailing lists often develop very close relationships with the othe
r women on the lists. The current study is a phenomenological study of chan
ges over time in the interactions occurring on a long-lived mailing list, t
he Star Fleet Ladies' Auxiliary, a group initially formed for women who wer
e interested in discussing Star Trek without interruption from "immature" s
exual comments from males. This closed-membership mailing list has been in
existence since 1993, and currently has 28 active members. Members answered
an open-ended questionnaire about their experience with the group, and the
ir responses were thematically coded. Three themes predominated: respondent
s saw the group as a "safe haven," they saw the other members as a "network
of friends or family who are involved in each others' lives on a daily bas
is," and they saw the group interaction as "sharing." Respondents also indi
cated that the group was "not about men or about Star Trek".