This article reviews the historical relationship of religious institutions
to the performance of marriage ceremonies. It looks at what various religio
us traditions say officially about homosexuality and about same-sex relatio
nships. It also considers how gay and lesbian couples have negotiated their
places, especially in terms of same-sex ceremonies of commitment, within r
eligious traditions which have offered varying degrees and kinds of affirma
tion. The author goes on to argue that there will be a variety of religious
views concerning the legalization of same-sex relationships as marriages o
r marriage-like relationships. Religious institutions are not now obliged t
o marry all those who can be legally married, so the objections that arise
within religious institutions should be handled as matters of policy within
those religious institutions rather than as grounds for denying the legal
right to marriage to gay and lesbian couples. The author further argues tha
t all marriage as a legal entity should rest in the hands of the state, and
that churches should bless relationships rather than continue to be involv
ed in legalizing marriages.